I am blown away of the number of women unfamiliar with their bodies and who have never been “hands on” apart from the minimal touch required to keep it clean.
Tell me, Ladies, how many males do you know who are NOT hands on with their genitalia? From infancy on up until the day they die, males are hands on. And, it’s accepted as the norm.
So, what’s up with us? Why are we any different? Is it just because ours doesn’t hang out in front and wiggle? Or, because we don’t need to wrangle it when urinating to keep from spraying the wall…floor….? Does that give us a reason not to know and understand and handle what we have?
Or, is it more?
Is it that most of us are born with a hymen and social taboos prohibit us from doing anything that would harm that precious piece of skin lest we be considered to be of less value simply because our hymen is torn, stretched, or missing?
Is it because of misinformation that says that girls who handle themselves and are aware down there will become promiscuous? (Did you know that’s the very reason some moms give for not wanting their girls to use tampons?)
When’s the last time you were hands on, genitally speaking? When’s the last time you encouraged your girl to be hands on?
Look, Ladies, much of what we have is internal and what is visible, isn’t to us unless we take a mirror and explore the wonderful world down-under.
It’s time we do so – explore that is. It’s your body, I don’t care how young or how old you are. You’re responsible for her. Know her – every millimeter of her. Know what she feels like. Learn how she responds. Decide what she likes. Understand what she dislikes and know why.
Be hands on.
There are two rules to hands on exploration. Be gentle. Have clean hands.
Here’s a little homework for you when you’re not on, period wise.
- Get a mirror and find your urethra. (Simply put – that’s where your pee comes out.)
- Slip your finger into your vagina and feel for your bladder. (This is best done when your bladder is full.)
- After you locate your bladder (and even if you don’t), feel for your rectum and lower bowel. (You might find that the meal you ate two days ago has neared the end of its journey and is approaching the exit of your digestive system as a lumpy, bumpy mass.)
- While your finger is within your vagina, Kegel (tighten the muscles used to prevent or regulate urine flow) and see how tight you can squeeze.
- While you have the mirror handy, see if you can find your hymen, or the remnants of it.
- And, check out your inner labia. Do they match? Do you notice any spots, freckles…warts?
- Oh! And, while you are down there, if you’ve given birth and had an episiotomy, see if you can find your scar!
There’s so much more to learn and do – it’s your body. Get to know her. Understand her. Appreciate her Love her. She’s dependent on you to take good care of her. How can you if you don’t know who she is?
Want some links? Look below. Be advised. (Some contain simple drawings while others, actual pictures.) Be body wise. Be period wise.
Vagina – what’s normal and what’s not
What does a “normal” woman look like down there?